After Dating, Try Some Vacationing…
Ah yes, the first vacation as a couple. Now there’s an interesting look into an individual’s personality.
So you’ve been dating for some time, and you’ve decided it’s time to test the waters of a couple’s vacation. Often times when you embark on your first out-of-town experience with another person you find little surprises you’d have never considered. For instance, how funny are they about packing the suitcase/car/hotel closets? How do they feel about trying new things? Going out of town with a person often brings out nuances of their personality that you just don’t get the chance to see in their comfort-zone. And sometimes these nuances make up severe annoyances for you. For instance, my husband can’t stand my sense of direction, and I likewise cannot stand his. What registers in my mind as a short cut spells out inefficiency to him. So what should you do when you’ve gone on vacation with a flame and find yourself learning a little too much? Don’t jump ship just yet. Take a step back and consider that the person you’re with now that you’re out of town, and out-of-comfort-zone, may be reacting either too wildly or too frugally due to their stress at simply being out of their normal environment. The first vacation is no time to draw relationship-altering conclusions about your significant other as not everyone reacts well to change in any extreme, be it moving away, moving their physical location, or moving their toothbrush. Try to relax a little yourself and allow them room to calm down. Odds are that after a couple of days they’ll come back to a normal state. This doesn’t in any way mean that if their actions portray a dangerous or unacceptable side that you should throw caution to the wind or let truly unacceptable behavior pass without question. But it does mean that if they seem a little off their game, give them time to adjust.